From our self defense class, we now know our ABCD’s:

Awareness: stay alert and be on your guard. Try not to be distracted by your cellphone or a music player.

Buddy: have someone with you. It’s always better to walk with a friend, especially for kids. The more people in a group, the louder you can be, as you will see below.

Confidence: if you are sure to be strong, others will think so too.

Defense: if you have to, you can use some techniques to break free from an attacker. The best thing is to avoid her or him, but before that, you can try some of those tips:


Be loud and clear. Say on the top of your lungs : “No leave me alone.” Let’s make sure everybody hears you, even the bystander who pretends not to see. In a situation like someone annoys you in the bus, you will be happy to get some help. Call a person using specific details:

– “Hey you, the tall guy (try to pick the biggest, it might be a good choice) with the blue shirt, can you help me, please?”

You don’t have to be this precise:
– “Hey you, the tall guy with a blue shirt that need some ironing and a large tie with red dots and yellow line that doesn’t match your green pants; please can you help me?”

A sentence that is too long can discourage any passerby to step in, but may discourage your aggressor as well

Strike do not punch.

Use your palm, which is stronger than your fist
Four fingers aim for the eyes of your attacker. At least one might succeed.
Elbow strikes on throat
Knee kicks on groin
Heel stomps on the toes
Curved hands smash ears

The instructor encouraged us to practice at home. Now, we need to find our dummy sample. What about a bored teenager or an over supportive friend?
Remember, all the above are painfull. Go smoothly!

Break grip

If an aggressive hand grabs your wrist, the weaker point is where the fingers meet. We can succeed in releasing from the grab by using this point. We were amazed to see how this works. We will try to describe it and then you will be able to do it at home.

First ask your partner to grab your right arm with his-her right hand. Instead of pulling you arm, step on your “aggressor” and bend your elbow quickly. You will be surprised to see how easily you can free yourself. When your attacker grabs you with his left hand, take yours with your free hand and pull.

Any twisting, reversing, and pulling of fingers work fine too.
My little finger told me that even strong men are pinky sensitive.


All these techniques are meant to help us escape. As soon as we get the chance, we should run away.

Of course at the end, we are still running, but it feels good to know that this time we can break a finger or a toe before we escape.

After our experience, we realized that the main thing with self-defense was to change our inner reactions. We face our opponent when we just want to go away from him. We have to scream our disagreement on the way this person treats us, and stand for ourselves. We try to control our fears to keep our mind alert and free of stress. Then, we do the move that will help us get back to safety.

In the end, we had the feeling that this course was going to be very useful on different level. We can do it. We just need more practice that’s all.

Florence and Kathleen
The Buoy Bloggers